Guys Can Plan Weddings Too!
Your Groom Help You With The Decisions For Planning Your Wedding?
Men are traditionally told that all they have to do in the wedding process is show up in a tuxedo and say “I do”. While it is true that this is a very important part of the process it is not true that it is or should be their only role or right. Every groom should be involved in the wedding process even if it is to simply give his opinion on the decisions that are be or have been made.
While it is a traditional gender role that tells men that they don’t have to be involved, it is true that men don’t have much excitement about the process. They aren’t excited about picking out flowers or looking for dresses because it is not of interest to them, but they could be excited about choices. Don’t get the groom involved to much in the beginning stages, they haven’t been considering the details like colors for their entire lives.
One way to change this, is to ask your groom which part of the wedding would he like to plan? Guys are great at focusing on a task until it is completed. Make sure that you discuss all of your wants and needs concerning the portion of your wedding he is willing to take on. Perhaps he could plan the bar and make a list of what will be needed the day of your wedding. Maybe you could have him take over the logistics and scheduling. I have known several grooms that have planned the music even hiring a live band or making CD’s or loading an Ipod for all components of a wedding from the Wedding Ceremony to the Reception. They are so great about helping us – we just have to let go and trust that our soon to be spouse knows us better than anyone and will make sure that above all else we are happy.
Whittle down the choices to two or three options most men will give their opinions on and become involved in the process. This will give your groom a feeling of ownership in the wedding and make it feel like a day for the both of you. This will only give you more of a feeling of unity on the day of the wedding. The best part is that you will find that you make a great team and you no longer have to do everything by yourself!