A wedding becomes almost impossible to plan and make special when you are trying constantly to make the day about everyone that is in attendance. Trying to include a song in the reception for every loved one or making eye contact with everyone as you walk down the aisle is not possible. You should simply worry about yourself and your partner as your wedding day progresses.
This is the only (hopefully) wedding day that you will ever get and it is important that you remember it as though it was enjoyable for you. As you go throughout the day it is easy to get caught up in emotion, tradition and sentimentality but you should try to steer clear. Try not to waste time on anything that takes away from the day for you and your soon to be spouse.
The wedding day should only be about the two of you and nobody else, not your parents, siblings or friends, just you two. Try to make sure that you are taking moments here and there to take mental pictures, things that you will remember about the day that meant something to you. This day is about you and should always be so.